What happens when the life you imagined for yourself doesn’t unfold on the timeline you expected?
In this deeply personal conversation, Beth sits down with licensed mental health counselor Anne Sandefur, JD, EdM, LMHC, to talk about her decision to freeze her eggs at 34 and everything that came with it. Anne opens up about the emotional, physical, and mental realities of the experience, from the uncertainty and financial stress to anger, grief, gratitude, and the complicated feelings that can come with making a decision about your future before you know what that future will look like.
Together, Beth and Anne explore the pressures women face to have their careers, relationships, marriage, and children figured out by a certain age, and how those expectations can quietly shape the choices we make. They talk about dating, comparison, the fear of running out of time, and the challenge of separating what you truly want from what you feel you’re supposed to want.
Most importantly, this conversation is about learning to meet yourself where you are. Beth and Anne discuss the power of self-compassion, finding people who can support you without judgment, letting go of comparison, and remembering that there is no single timeline for building a meaningful life.
Anne’s story is not about having all the answers. It’s about making space for uncertainty, owning your choices, and learning to trust yourself along the way.
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Anne Sandefur, JD, EdM, LMHC, Owner of Sandefur Mental Health Counseling
A former professional ballet dancer, I have shifted my passion and dedication to the field of mental health counseling. It was during my time mediating civil conflicts that I decided to move into the field of counseling to garner a deeper relationship with my clients and more intimately help them move towards their goals and a sense of well-being.
Anne Sandefur, JD, EdM, LMHC
https://www.sandefurtherapy.com/
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Email: hello@sandefurtherapy.com
Phone: (212) 655-4022
We Also Talk About
Women’s experiences with societal pressures regarding fertility and life choices.
The emotional, physical, and mental health aspects of egg freezing.
Personal journeys and transitions in career and identity.
The complexity of emotions involved in the egg freezing process, including anger, gratitude, and grief.
The importance of support systems and therapy during significant life decisions.
Financial and ethical considerations surrounding egg freezing.
The evolving conversation around fertility and egg freezing for women in their 30s.
The impact of societal expectations on women’s choices and timelines regarding motherhood.
The significance of self-compassion and celebrating personal journeys without comparison.
The broader societal implications of women’s reproductive choices and the pressures they face.
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