We Don’t Talk About Grief Enough (But We Should)

Lately, grief feels like it’s everywhere. So many people I care about are navigating life-changing heartbreaks and losses. A friend mourning a miscarriage. Another facing the end of a long relationship. A family member grieving a parent. It’s been heartbreaking to witness. 

Grief has a way of creeping into our lives quietly, sometimes all at once, sometimes in slow waves. And yet, we don’t talk about it enough. We often don’t know what to say when someone is grieving. We’re afraid of saying the wrong thing or making it worse. And if we’re grieving ourselves, we might feel pressure to move on too quickly or keep it hidden.

As I’ve held space for others’ grief, I’ve also had to check in with my own. The ache of watching people I love in pain. The quiet heartbreak of being unable to fix it. The weight of trying to show up well while still being in my own grief. It’s humbling and it’s human.

So, if you’re navigating grief—your own or someone else’s—here are a few gentle reminders and ways to show up:

 For yourself:

• Grief doesn’t have a timeline. There is no “right” way to feel or heal.

• Let yourself feel what you feel—even if it’s messy, inconsistent, or doesn’t make sense.

• Create tiny rituals: a walk, a candle, a playlist, a journal. Grief responds to rhythm and slowness.

• Ask for help. You don’t have to do it alone.

 For others:

• Don’t try to fix it. Just be there. “I’m here for you” means more than we realize.

• Check in weeks and months later—grief doesn’t vanish after the first few days.

• Say their person’s name. Acknowledge their loss.

• Offer specific help: “Can I drop off dinner Tuesday?” or “Want to talk or just sit in silence?”

• Hold space without needing to fill it.

You don’t have to have the perfect words. Your presence is the gift.

If grief is part of your world right now, I see you. And I hope you know it’s okay to feel it, to talk about it, and to honor it in your own time and way.

XOXO,

Beth

P.S. If you’re in a season of loss or supporting someone through one, you’re not alone. And if you need support or a space to process, I’m always just a message away.