In episode 26 of Quiet the Clock, Ariana White returns to share with us her journey of egg freezing. She candidly talks about the challenges and surprises she experienced as she navigated this process. Ari shares how she balanced her day-to-day emotions while going through egg freezing, which included a baby shower on her retrieval day and sonogram pictures from a friend on the same day she got less-than-ideal news from the clinic.
Ari expressed her strong desire for motherhood, despite her journey’s challenges. As well as the significance of discussing fertility more often while seeking information beyond doctor visits. Ari emphasizes the support she received from her family and friends, as well as her positive experience with the medical team at NYU Langone.
In the conversation, Ari shares more about her decision to postpone before undergoing another round of egg retrieval and her unwavering determination to realize her dream of motherhood regardless of the challenges this process presents, emotionally, financially, and physically.
Quotes:
- 00:06:53 “All these narratives come up and a lot of the guests from season one that had been through the egg-freezing process before where they didn’t get like an ideal amount of numbers. It’s this self-blame piece that comes in like, What did I do wrong? What could I have done differently? My body failed me, my body is broken and it’s so it’s so real.”
- 00:29:39 – “I have a lot of friends in my 30s. And so now I kind of have like started the charge of like everyone wanting to go and like look into these things and figure it out, you know, and figure out how they want to become a parent. What path if it’s adoption, fostering, having a donor like a single parent, whatever it is? Like we’re all having this conversation now because time waits for no one.”
- 00:22:40 – “It speaks to who you are as a friend to just show up and be there and still want to be there (at that baby shower), even though, you know, you didn’t get great news with what you were going through.”
Key Points:
- The journey begins [00:02:18]
- Ari shares her expectations and challenges of the egg-freezing process, including timing issues and anxiety.
- Disappointing results [00:04:46]
- Ari learns only five follicles are developing instead of the expected ten, leading to disappointment and questions about her body.
- Self-blame and support [00:06:53]
- Discussion about self-blame following unsatisfactory egg results and the importance of a support system throughout the process.
- The ultrasound experience [00:09:29]
- Ari describes her reassuring interactions with the ultrasound technician during her egg-freezing journey.
- Taking a break and doing research [00:12:04]
- Ari explains her choice to pause after the first round, resetting and researching before proceeding.
- Confronting the duality of emotions [00:15:37]
- Ari shares dealing with a friend’s pregnancy news while navigating her fertility struggles and differing timelines.
- The baby shower and retrieval conflict [00:18:45]
- Discussion of balancing life and the challenge of her baby shower coinciding with her egg retrieval.
- The determination to attend the baby shower [00:19:21]
- Ari’s determination to attend the baby shower after the retrieval, not wanting to miss the important moment.
- The decision to add embryo freezing [00:23:16]
- Ari’s choice, after consultation with her partner, to incorporate embryo freezing, providing additional peace of mind and conception options.
- Ari’s determination to become a mother [00:28:05]
- Ari’s expression of her strong desire for embryos and motherhood, despite her journey’s challenges.
- Importance of having conversations about fertility [00:28:43]
- Beth emphasizes the significance of discussing fertility and seeking information beyond doctor visits.
- Paying it forward and supporting other women [00:29:54]
- Discussion between Beth and Ari about sharing experiences and knowledge to support women in their fertility journeys.