In the 29th episode of “Quiet the Clock,” we sit down with Nicole, an Intuitive Eating Dietitian, about her egg freezing journey, her hesitation to initially share publicly, how a breakup in her 30’s changed her timeline and how tuning into what you actually want is so important.
Nicole candidly delves into these initial reservations about egg freezing and her ultimate decision to share her experiences on social media, aiming to break the stigma surrounding this topic.
The episode goes beyond personal narratives to explore the broader landscape of sharing experiences and normalizing discussions about egg freezing. It sheds light on the challenges faced by single women in the realm of dating while undergoing the egg-freezing process. Nicole also shares how she has shifted to date more intentionally and how that has changed her experience with dating in amazing ways!
Additionally, this episode addresses the profound fears and uncertainties surrounding relationships and motherhood. Join the conversation as “Quiet the Clock” continues to reshape societal norms and foster a supportive community for women facing similar choices in this eye-opening episode.
Quotes:
Nicole 00:23:01:22 ” Egg freezing is something you typically think about going through with a partner…but there are so many women who are not in a relationship doing this now…For women who may want to have children in the future, it’s an amazing thing to do by yourself.”
Nicole, 00:14:52, “I think I focus so heavily when I have been sharing it on social media. I think I’ve been talking a lot about the emotional and mental peace of it. Like it’s not as bad as you think, the injections aren’t really, they’re not as bad as you think. You can make it fun by listening to music while you ice your belly. Like I kind of highlighted a lot of what made the process kind of enjoyable and have been speaking a bit about the information that I wish that I had known, you know? So helpful.”a
Nicole: 00:16:28:11 – 00:17:21:05 “So I started going through it and about half way through the cycle I was like I want to scream it from the rooftops…What was that shift from heel not to scream it to the rooftops…My friend, she kind of gave me that final push to do it.”
Nicole 00:24:38, “Yeah, Egg Freezing is an amazing thing to do by yourself.”
Nicole, 00:29:01, “It doesn’t mean you don’t want to be in that relationship, it’s just you miss this piece of yourself.”
Nicole: 25:30 “There’s some certain things that I still have a hard time with, like showing all the vulnerability. And I think that this is one of them where I like to show two sides at once.”
Nicole 29:55 “But it’s just started off, started out really great and we got into a relationship a little too soon and like whatever. But one of the relationships that I’m most grateful for because it ended up leading me to work with this relationship Coach Interesting.”
Key Points:
The decision to freeze eggs [00:06:31] Nicole shares her decision process and the reasons behind her choice to freeze her eggs.
Receiving recommendations from gynecologists [00:07:07] Nicole discusses how she felt when her gynecologist and friend recommended egg freezing and reflects on the different reactions women may have to such suggestions.
Lack of information and discussions surrounding egg freezing [00:08:07] Nicole expresses her desire for more information and discussions about the biological and physiological aspects of egg freezing when she initially considered the option.
The fear of injections [00:09:30] Discussion about the fear of injections during the egg freezing process and the personal experiences of the speakers.
Not being ready for egg freezing [00:11:15] The guest shares her reasons for not rushing to freeze her eggs, including not being ready for marriage and children.
Lack of information and urgency [00:12:38] The speakers discuss the lack of information given to them about egg freezing and the need for more informative conversations about fertility options.
The shift from clinical to personal connection [00:17:39] Nicole discusses how her perspective on the egg freezing process shifted from being clinical and detached to having a personal connection and understanding the potential future implications.
Financial considerations and promotional offer [00:18:34] Nicole mentions the financial aspect of egg freezing and shares information about a promotional offer at Extend, where participants can receive $1000 off a cycle if they sign up before September 29th.
The decision to freeze eggs at 37 [00:20:23] Nicole reflects on her decision to freeze her eggs at the age of 37 and the significance of her grandmother having her mother at the same age. She also mentions the financial responsibility of her growing business as a factor in her decision-making process.
The shift to hyper independence [00:26:16] Beth discusses her transition into a hyper-independent mindset after ending a five-year relationship.
Daydreaming about singlehood [00:27:01] Moments of daydreaming and idealizing singlehood, and the grief that can come from missing the single version of oneself.
Challenging societal narratives about timing [00:29:27] Discussion around the societal pressure to be in a relationship or married at a certain point in life, and the importance of challenging these narratives and embracing one’s own timing.
The fear of kids ruining the relationship [00:35:43] Beth expresses her fear of kids ruining the relationship and the uncertainty she feels about marriage and children.
The uncertainty of committing to a lifelong partnership [00:37:37] Beth discusses her doubts about being 100% sure about committing to spending the rest of her life with someone.
Dating with intention and expressing needs [00:38:27] Beth talks about how she has shifted her dating approach to be more intentional and vulnerable, expressing her needs and deal breakers.