In this episode of “Quiet the Clock”, Beth Gulotta and her mentee and friend Lauren Larkin delve into the complex decision of egg freezing. Lauren, contemplating this significant step, discusses the emotional and relational dynamics with her partner Mike, emphasizing the need for support and open dialogue. They explore societal pressures, personal fears, and the importance of making choices aligned with individual desires rather than external expectations. The episode also touches on the practicalities of the process, from clinic visits to scheduling and prenatal preparations. Beth shares her insights, encouraging involvement and communication between partners. Both emphasize the importance of sharing similar stories to normalize different timelines and paths.
Quotes
Lauren Larkin, 00:02:01, “It’s like a shared decision that you’re making, but then it’s also like, if you’re not married or engaged, it’s like, well, is this my decision to make? Am I solo on this boat?”
Lauren Larkin, 00:05:30, “You should only be saying, ‘Yeah, I’m obsessed with my partner, and I want to get married to them, and I’m so excited.'”
Lauren Larkin, 00:06:23, “Part of me doing this is to protect myself from turning into a person that I don’t want to be in my relationship.”
Lauren Larkin, 00:18:30, “I’m just not an idealist; I am like, where are the holes? What could go wrong? How can I prevent it as much as possible?”
Lauren Larkin, 00:18:55, “I like the idea of enjoying every stage and phase of life, and I think that gives me a little bit more… it’s the scarcity of ‘we have to do this right now, oh my god this isn’t going to happen.'”
Lauren Larkin, 00:25:07, “I think it’s just a little bit of a security blanket on our overall relationship for me that I feel like, okay, he said obviously, or like he said, ‘Can you do it tomorrow?'”
Beth Gulotta, 00:35:25, “I appreciate you saying that so much because it is so important for me to safeguard other women from some of the experiences that I have had.”
Beth Gulotta, 00:35:56, “Even if it’s helping one person, I’m down to do it.”
Key Points
– Decision to freeze eggs and its impact on relationships
– Emotional and logistical aspects of the egg freezing process
– Societal pressures and expectations around marriage and motherhood
– Importance of open communication in relationships
– Managing personal and professional roles as therapists
– Emotional and practical considerations in choosing the timing for the procedure
– Support and guidance for those considering egg freezing
– Sharing personal experiences to help others going through similar situations
– Importance of feeling supported and not alone in the decision
– Providing support and guidance to others in similar situations
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