After my miscarriage, I felt distraught, lost, and frustrated with my body. I knew I needed help; I was not going to navigate the intricacies of my body on my own.

I am so grateful to have this podcast, which has allowed me to connect with so many amazing women. And because of this I did not have to research, search, or ask around, I already knew someone and immediately reached out.

Stefanie Adler was a previous guest on my podcast and is a dietician and hormone specialist. We started working together and while she has helped me revamp my diet, introduce LOTS of supplements, teach me how to track my cycle and so much more, one of the biggest things she is helping me work on is my mental and emotional state as I try and get pregnant again.

In one of our sessions together she asked me to recall some of the best and biggest gifts I received in my life, not the kind that come wrapped with a bow. The beautiful sent by the universe kind. I did not have to think on it long to know that the two biggest gifts in my life have been meeting my partner and having my son.

She then prompted me to think about those times and how those gifts came to me. And it hit me HARD! I never realized the connection between the two until she prompted me to think about it. In both instances, all the pressure was off! I was not thinking about meeting anyone, and I was not thinking about getting pregnant. I was so happy and present in my life and in full acceptance about where I was. I was not in a mindset of lack or longing. And from this place, both of these beautiful life changing things happened.

Prior to receiving both of these gifts, I was in a place of deep sadness of desperation for the things I wanted most, did not have yet and felt like I may never have. I dated like crazy to meet the “one.” I felt disappointment and let down when nothing seemed to work, I was forcing things, over idealizing people and potentially settling sometimes. But then I got grateful of all that I did have and the beauty of my single life, I got in complete gratitude for the life I had built and a month later, Rob literally walked into my life.

Fast forward to wanting to be pregnant. I was in the same energy, desperate sad, forcing, fighting with Rob for answers and to get on the same timeline. We had one final conversation that took all the pressure off, and we literally just said, “let’s try and see what happens.” I was pregnant two weeks later.

So, the moral of the story is, take the pressure off! I know that is no easy task, but it is from this place that things flow to you, that all that you have desired come to you in

ways that you have not imagined, in the time that all of a sudden makes perfect sense.

I prompt you to do the following:

1. Think about what you desire most (a career change, a partner, a baby, a trip-it

can be anything)

2. Ask yourself what energy am I bringing to this? Am I forcing it, am I impatient to

receive it? I am telling myself I won’t have it?

3. Practice gratitude. Start to shift your focus to what you do already have that you

are proud of, that fills you up that you are so grateful for.

4. Stay present in your life as it is today. Often when we are so focused on what we

want we lose sight of what we have and how wonderful life is now.

Wishing that all the wonderful things you desire will flow to you in the perfect timing

and that you can trust in this and love your life now!