In the 34th episode of Quiet The Clock, the focus shifts to dating and the road to recovery from love addiction. Jackie Simek, Mindset and Leadership Coach candidly shares her personal journey, emphasizing the importance of owning one’s experiences and challenging societal timelines for partnership, marriage, and motherhood.
Jackie discusses her path to recovery from love addiction, highlighting the benefits of taking a break from dating to gain clarity and self-empowerment. She opens up about her struggles with accepting the addict label and how love addiction affected her past relationships.
The conversation underscores the significance of self-reflection and taking charge of one’s choices in relationships. Jackie’s story serves as inspiration for those on similar journeys.
Quotes:
Jackie, “When you create a fantasy, your body and your brain don’t know any different. They think you were head over heels in love. It shatters and it feels extremely painful.”
Jackie “You end up getting a lot more clarity if you’re not always like looking out there and like scanning for like what’s available and all that, you can come back to home and be like, All right, what do I actually want? Like, how do I become the person Who will then line up with the person I’m looking for.”
Jackie “Anyone who’s like, still thinking about their ex, like months and months later or years later still harping on stuff like maybe you should go to a meeting”
Jackie “The healthiest relationships are two independent people coming together with interdependence.”
Jackie 00:14:08:22 – 00:14:33:12 “You want to prioritize this. I’m not saying don’t put energy and effort into your dating life, but it can’t be the center of your universe. Because then you are going to be like a yo-yo on a string being like did they call? Did they text?… A healthy relationship cannot be born out of that pressure. They often are not born out of that, yeah.”
Jackie 00:24:24:03 – 00:25:13:20 “So I think women do make it harder in some sense because they hold expectation they don’t hold standards…The healthiest relationships are two independent people coming together with interdependence.”
Key Points:
The importance of taking a break from dating [00:07:08] Jackie discusses the benefits of taking a break from dating and seeking validation from men in order to gain clarity and personal power.
Working through the steps of recovery [00:08:09] Jackie talks about her struggle with accepting the label of being an addict and her progress in working through the steps of recovery.
The journey of addiction recovery [00:08:56] Jackie shares her personal experience with love addiction and how it led her to join a recovery program.
Understanding attachment styles [00:10:41] Jackie and Beth discuss attachment styles and how they can impact relationships and dating.
Dating with self-awareness and intention [00:13:14] Jackie talks about her dating experiences after going through the recovery program and how she approaches dating with self-awareness and a different mindset.
The journey of dating and recovery [00:17:40] Jackie shares her experience with love addiction and how it led her to join a recovery program.
Different dating experiences [00:18:23] Jackie discusses how her dating experiences in New York were formulaic, while her current relationship progressed differently.
Recognizing the need to end the relationship [00:19:31] Jackie talks about realizing that her current partner wasn’t the right person for her and making the decision to end the relationship.
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