In this episode of the Quiet the Clock podcast, Beth talks about her relationship with her partner, Rob. She shares the challenges they have faced, including hard conversations about marriage and children, and the uncertainty that comes with it.
Beth admits to struggling with comparing herself to others and feeling like she was waiting for Rob to be ready. She emphasizes the importance of trust, respect, and communication in a relationship and wishes she had been more present and grateful for the things she had and less focused on the things she did not.
Quotes:
- “I’m a true believer that conflict breeds closeness when done well when done with respect.”
- “I’m not proud of the moments I get upset and sensitive about things that normally would not bother me.”
- “Trust that all that is meant for you will come.”
Key Points:
- Challenges in a relationship [00:00:00] Beth shares about the challenges she and Rob have faced in their relationship, including conflicts and hard conversations.
- Meeting Rob [00:03:33] Beth talks about how she met Rob at a dinner with friends from her gym, and how she was initially annoyed by him.
- Honeymoon phase [00:07:10] Beth describes the first two years of her relationship with Rob as the honeymoon phase, filled with travel, meeting each other’s families and friends, and falling in love.
- Things I wanna talk to Rob about [00:11:19] Beth shares her journal entry from July 29th, 2019, where she expresses her uncertainty about her relationship with Rob and how it is affecting her.
- Uncertainty and its effects [00:08:47] Beth talks about how the uncertainty of not knowing if Rob wants marriage and kids affected her self-esteem and caused her to have meaningless fights.
- Dealing with uncertainty [00:13:25] Beth shares her struggles with living in uncertainty and how it is affecting her mental health and relationship with Rob.
- Meeting Rob didn’t answer all the uncertainty [00:17:36] Beth talks about how meeting her partner did not solve all the uncertainties in her life, and how it made things more complex.
- Comparison and uncertainty [00:15:57] Beth discusses how comparing herself to others and dealing with uncertainty affected her mental health and relationship.
- Journey to motherhood [00:19:24] Beth previews the next episode, where she will talk about her journey to motherhood, including freezing her eggs at 37.