In this episode of the Quiet the Clock podcast, host Beth shares her journey through her thirties, including her experiences with dating, friendships, and career.
She reads two journal entries that highlight different times in her life during her thirties, and gives an overview of her journey to motherhood and her relationship with her partner Rob.
Beth reflects on her journey to finding her career path in mental health counseling and encourages women to lean into what they can feel good about and proud of.
Her hope with the podcast is to help other women navigate this decade in a way that they can feel proud of their journey even if it looks different than they expected.
Quotes:
- “Every decision is mine, every dollar I spend is my own. At 32, I can say I am proud of how hard I work, the money I make, and the bills I’m working to pay off. It’s all mine.”
- “I finally in that moment leaned into my singlehood because prior to that it was sort of the victim narrative or not feeling great about myself and it was the ebb and flow of like cool i’m great with this life i love being independent to being so sad that i was single and at 34 it really just felt so authentic to lean into this radical acceptance of i love this life i’m so happy with this life i feel really good and literally a month later bam i meet rob so i wish i had a little more time in that space and i think that’s part of the messaging is i want women to feel more in that space more in this place of loving their life radical acceptance being in the now and being really grateful.”
- “Try to lean into what you can feel that feel good about and feel proud of and i you know this is a question that my my clients struggle with cuz i know sometimes i’ll ask them tell me something you’re proud of and they look at me like i have five heads so i think that’s a space we don’t often lean into spend time reflecting on and i wish i wish i had”
Key Points:
- Being 32 and Single [00:01:09] Beth shares a journal entry from 2013 when she was 32 and single, feeling empowered and proud of her independence.
- Shift and Change [00:03:30] Beth shares another journal entry from 2019, highlighting the shift and change in her life after meeting her partner Rob, and the challenges they faced.
- Overview of Thirties [00:06:49] Beth gives an overview of her thirties, including being single and dating in her early thirties, meeting Rob at 34, and the uncertainty and challenges in her late thirties, particularly around motherhood.
- Dating Patterns [00:07:45] Beth talks about her dating patterns and how she realized she had a pattern of dating unavailable people.
- Radical Acceptance [00:09:31] Beth talks about how she came to a place of radical acceptance of her singlehood and how it opened her up to meet her partner Rob.
- Friendship and Loss [00:13:41] Beth talks about the loss and gain of friendships in her thirties and how she learned that friendships come and go.
- Finding the Right Career [00:16:16] Beth talks about her journey to finding the right career and how she struggled with self-judgment and feeling inadequate compared to her college friends.
- Challenges in the Workplace [00:17:48] Beth shares her experiences of external and internal judgment in the workplace and how she wished she felt more proud of her accomplishments.
- Lessons Learned in Her Thirties [00:21:02] Beth reflects on the highs and lows of her thirties, including resilience, loss, and gaining new friends, and hopes to empower women to celebrate their journey and move away from comparison.